When Rosa’s father died at age 85, twenty-two years ago, we experienced, firsthand, the benefits of prepaid funeral expenses. He had spent the last three weeks of his life in intensive care, and the ordeal had thoroughly exhausted Rosa, an only child, and her mother. What a blessing to discover that all the funeral arrangements had been made and paid for in advance: the mortuary, the plot, the marker, the casket, the service—everything. Prepayment eliminated a lot of decision-making with regard to funeral arrangements and anxiety over what Rosa’s father would have wanted and how much to spend.
Rosa called the funeral home to have them transport her father’s body from the hospital to the mortuary. The next day she met with a representative from the funeral home to review the arrangements her father had purchased and set a date for the service. The personnel at the funeral home spent their time assisting her rather than selling her. And best of all, Rosa knew that this was exactly what her father had wanted.
Niches of our own
We were impressed with the benefits of prepayment and wanted to spare our surviving relatives the anxiety and guilt associated with making funeral arrangements for us. Within the next year, we took the first step and contacted the same cemetery Rosa’s parents had chosen; we purchased two niches in the cemetery’s mausoleum as a permanent resting place for our cremated remains. The cost of the niches also covered cemetery fees for opening and closing the niches for internment of our remains and for perpetual care. We received a contract of sale, a certificate of ownership, and a document that certified that a fund had been established for the perpetual care of the cemetery and mausoleum.
Our prepaid funeral arrangements
Twelve years later, Rosa’s mother died. She had prepaid her funeral arrangements, as well. In dealing with her death, we gained valuable knowledge of the cost of a direct cremation (cremation without a service). The laws had changed since Rosa’s father’s death. Now the state required a mandatory waiting period prior to cremation. This added to the storage and transportation costs for direct cremation. The additional expenses persuaded us to go ahead and prepay our funeral arrangements.
Our prepayment involved both a funeral home and a life insurance company. We sat down with a member of the funeral home staff and reviewed the prepayment contracts which contained a detailed menu of options, selected the options that pertained to a direct cremation, reviewed the terms, and signed the contracts—one for each of us. The contracts stipulate that the funeral home will provide the services we selected, when required, at no additional cost. In other words, we locked in the price of those services at 2005 levels.
Our prepayment contract is funded by a prepaid life insurance policy through a separate life insurance company that specializes in policies to fund funeral expenses. The funeral home took our applications for the insurance. We chose a five-year, interest-free, monthly installment plan to pay the insurance premiums which totaled exactly the amount of the prepaid funeral expenses. The entire proceeds of the life insurance policy are paid at the death of the policyholder to the funeral home for the services indicated on the prepayment contract.
Not all funeral expenses are covered by prepayment
Prepaid funeral expense contracts do not cover all funeral expenses, only those provided by the funeral home. For example, in our case, crematory fees, death certificates, and newspaper obituaries are not covered. These fees are standardized and relatively small in comparison to the funeral costs that are prepaid and so will not be a burden on our surviving relatives.
Rosa and I created an end of life document that includes the details of our prepaid funeral expenses, the location of the pertinent documents, and our wishes for a memorial service to be held in our home in lieu of a funeral service.
Is prepayment of funeral expenses right for you?
Prepayment of our funeral expenses has proved to be a good choice for us, but is it prudent for you to prepay your funeral expenses? Here are some considerations:
- Is there a better use for your money? Prepayment of funeral expenses should be a relatively low priority for you. An emergency fund, paying off debts, adequate insurance coverage for health, property, and life, and adequate funding for retirement all should come before prepayment of your funeral expenses. However, if you are free of debt, have an emergency fund equivalent to at least six months of living expenses, are adequately insured in the critical areas of your life, and are on track to fund your retirement, then prepayment of funeral expenses can be a good use of your money.
- How committed are you to your marriage? A married couple that prepays funeral expenses that includes cemetery property are making a commitment to their union. If the marriage ends, one or both of them may have to sell the cemetery property or lose the investment.
- What is the likelihood that you will still be living in the city in which you purchased your cemetery property at the time of your death? Most people plan to be buried in the city in which they have lived, but who knows for sure where that will be? Who knows where life might take you, even in old age? You may end up living with one of your children half a continent away when you die and your remains will have to be transported back to the city in which you prepaid the funeral arrangements or your child will have to try to have the prepaid funeral contract transferred to a mortuary in the city in which your child resides. Either of which will require time and trouble on the part of your child and incur additional expense.
- What is the likelihood that the mortuary you intend to use for prepayment will still be in business when you die? Rosa and I chose a funeral home that had been in business for decades, had an excellent reputation, and was financially stable. Your prepaid funeral contract is only as good as the mortuary you do business with. Make sure you are dealing with a sound and reputable institution.
Options for prepayment of funeral expenses
There are different ways to finance a prepayment of funeral expenses. Each has its advantages and disadvantages:
- Prepaid funeral plan through a funeral home. The funeral home establishes an irrevocable funeral trust with a financial institution. The money you pay them goes into the trust. Such trusts are regulated by the state in most states. Contact your state consumer protection agency to determine what consumer protection is available should you purchase such a prepaid plan. This form of prepayment has two primary advantages: 1. You determine where you are buried and what kind of funeral and burial you will have. 2. You lock in the cost of services for which you prepaid. The main disadvantage of this form or prepayment is that either the funeral home or financial institution may go out of business and you could lose your investment.
- Life insurance. You take out a life insurance policy to cover the costs of your funeral at the time of your death. You can leave an end-of-life document that outlines your wishes for burial, funeral services, location, type of headstone and casket, total costs, etc. The primary advantages of this form of prepayment are that it is not tied to a funeral home and, depending on when you purchase the policy, what type of policy you choose, and how soon after you die, it may cost you less than a prepaid funeral plan. Funding prepayment of funeral expenses with a life insurance policy has three distinct disadvantages: 1. Costs are not locked in, so you will have to account for inflation when determining the face value of your insurance policy. 2. Costs for life insurance vary depending on what type of policy you purchase, when you purchase it, and the state of your health at the time of purchase. 3. Even if you leave detailed instructions regarding your funeral and burial, someone will have still have to implement your wishes and make difficult decisions under time constraints while grieving. Life insurance does not eliminate the anxiety and potential guilt over funeral arrangements in the way a prepaid plan does.
- Joint bank account. You establish a joint bank account specifically for payment of your funeral expenses and fund it with an amount you estimate will cover the costs. At the time of your death, the joint account holder can pay for your funeral expenses using the money in the account. As with the life insurance option, you can leave an end-of-life document that outlines your wishes for burial, funeral services, location, type of headstone and casket, total costs, etc. The primary advantages of this form of prepayment are immediate access to the funds in the bank account and the security of the funds if deposited in an institution covered by the Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation (FDIC). The disadvantages are similar to the life insurance option: 1. Costs are not locked in, so you will have to account for inflation when determining the you put on deposit in the account. 2. Even if you leave detailed instructions regarding your funeral and burial, someone will have still have to implement your wishes and make difficult decisions under time constraints while grieving. A joint bank account does not eliminate the anxiety and potential guilt over funeral arrangements in the way a prepaid plan does.
- Prepaid funeral plan funded with associated life insurance contract. You purchase a prepaid funeral plan from a funeral home of your choice. The plan is funded by a life insurance contract through an insurer associated with the plan and funeral home. At the death of the insured, the entire death benefit of the life insurance contract is paid to the funeral home to cover the contracted funeral services. The primary advantages of this form of prepayment are: 1. You determine where you are buried and what kind of funeral and burial you will have. 2. You lock in the cost of services for which you prepaid. 3. The money you use to prepay funeral expenses is protected from loss because he funeral home and insurance company are separate entities: If the funeral home goes out of business, the proceeds from the insurance policy will still be available to pay for funeral costs. Insurance companies are heavily regulated by the states. The state insurance commissioner will step in to guarantee the rights of policyholders if an insurer gets into financial trouble. The main disadvantage of this form of prepayment is if the funeral home goes out of business, you could lose the locked-in cost benefit of the prepaid funeral plan.
Once you prepay funeral expenses, keep the documents in a safe place. Make sure your spouse and appropriate family members know of the existence and location of the documents; they will need them when you are gone.
Rosa and I didn’t want to burden our loved ones with the arrangement and payment of our funeral expenses. They should be allowed to grieve their loss unencumbered by that terrible responsibility. So we took the responsibility that should only be ours and planned and prepaid our funeral expenses.
K. C. Knouse is the author of True Prosperity: Your Guide to a Cash-Based Lifestyle, Double-Dome Publications, 224 pages